More Specific Fetishes #1: Gags

If bondage is the broadest fetish I consider myself unable to do without, there are a number of others - some directly associated, others less so - that have also evolved into essential elements of my personal lifestyle. The first and most important of these are gags.

I'll be direct: I'm a bonafide "gag snob". For me, bondage is barely bondage without a gag. If the tied up person is easily able to yell for help, a whole heap of the magic is taken away for me. I'm often wondered why this one part of bondage carries such weight in my mind. Surely, if a woman has her hands tied tightly behind her back, het ankles are also cinched, and there's some more elaborate ropework holding her arms to her sides and nicely outlining her breasts, that should be enough?

Well truth be told, it almost always isn't. Be it the fact the woman can't communicate when she's wearing a gag, making her that much more helpless, or that aesthetically I've always loved the way a gag sets off the the rest of the facial features, or knowing that gags are (usually) uncomfortable and restrict the breathing of the gagged person - in and of itself a turn on - I'm not entirely sure. Hell, it could be that I'm simply sick of hearing people batter me with words all day long! Whatever it is, a gag is something I always prefer when engaging in bondage. On a girlfriend, when watching bondage porn, or even when seeing the heroine kidnapped on mainstream TV. No gag = lesser interest.

I've accepted this, and more than that, embraced it. My fetish for gags has grown over the years until I'm also disappointed with a single piece of tape, or a thin cleave gag, or even a straight forward ball-gag. Instead I like to see my partners or subs gagged with multiple layers. Packing the mouth with some form of stuffing is a major must. Then tape or some form of cloth to hold it in. Then it's time to consider another layer - say, something like vet wrap or coban - to make sure that second layer doesn't slip. Honestly, if I had a sub who enjoyed the experience, I'd go further, likely swathing their head in scarves, or at least adding a layer that covered their nose. This of course makes it more difficult to breathe, slowing the sub down if she's testing her bonds, or making it more difficult to escape in a role-play scenario. Obviously safety is a key factor if you're going to go this far - never leave a sub alone if they're gagged with anything that is impeding their breathing or could slip down their throat!

In terms of my partners over the years, I've had some who loved being gagged, others who tolerated it for my sake, and one or two who hated it. In the latter case, they would only allow it in a role-play situation where being gagged would be a neccesity - but for "normal" love-making (Hah! What's normal again?!) they only liked to be bound. This honestly meant I struggled to enjoy myself as much. Which, now that I think about it, makes it odd that I stayed in these relationships longer than any other I've had. Fortunately - or perhaps it could be attributed to a better selection process - more recent partners have all enjoyed being gagged or at least been happy to play along most of the time. My current gorgeous girl is still earning her bondage wings, but thus far has enjoyed being gagged so she can scream as loudly as she wants and not have the police descend upon us. I've yet to try a fully layered gag like that described above as she hasn't had her mouth packed, but she has liked her mouth being taped with and without a cleaving scarf gag first, and loves wearing the harness gag she purchased. Clearly being greedy, I've suggested that packing her mouth with her underwear is next on the agenda, so we'll see how that goes...

The images here depict some aspects of my gag fetish. The first above is of one of my favourite models from one of my favourite websites, Gina Rae Michaels. Her mouth is densely packed and she is held mute but the tape sealing her lips. Below is an example of an over the nose gag that I also enjoy seeing on women (assuming there's something packing her mouth and properly holding it in place beneath all that cloth ;-) Until next time, enjoy!